'Management was shocked': Boss writes employee up for discussing burnout in meetings, HR gives worker seven weeks of paid leave for burnout

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Isabella Penn
Oct 28, 2025 4:00 PM EDT

In a workplace that supposedly prided itself on transparency and self-care, one employee discovered just how conditional that support really was. After losing two close family members, her productivity slipped. Which is understandable, we're all human. She did what the company preached; she spoke openly in one-on-ones about her burnout and asked for help.

Her reward was a formal write-up from her boss. Management accused her of causing stress among the team and using meetings inappropriately. The document even included timestamps of every conversation in which she'd asked for support. They told her, in writing, to stop bringing up burnout altogether.

So, she did. 

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  • Two months later, she filed for a seven-week leave of absence for (you guessed it) burnout. When her manager expressed shock that she hadn’t spoken up sooner, she slid the write-up across the desk. “The action plan said I couldn’t talk about burnout,” she reminded them.

    HR wasn’t amused. Management was reprimanded for creating a hostile environment, she got her seven weeks off with partial pay, and her team had to carry her workload while she recovered.

    Sometimes the most powerful feedback you can give a workplace is silence... and a well-timed HR form.

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  • "Stop reporting about office burn out? Okay, done"

    My field of work has a high turnover and high burn out rate. As a result, my company promotes transparent conversations with staff members to ensure we are all implementing self care, taking PTO as needed, and asking for managerial support when overwhelmed with tasks.
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  • Last year, my work began to suffer. I was struggling losing two close family members suddenly, and was transparent in hopes they would understand why I was withdrawn and had lower productivity.
    via insiderecess
  • My manager wrote me up as a result of my burn out, citing that I was using our 1:1's inappropriately, causing stress among the team with my grief, and talking about being burnt out too much.
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  • The write up included every single 1:1 documentation of when I asked for help with burn out.
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  • Management instructed me to stop talking about burn out. No problem. I stopped bringing up burn out, being transparent, and asking support.
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  • About 2 months later, I request a 7 week leave of absence; citing extreme burn out and mental health issues.
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  • Management was shocked, and angry that I did not tell them I was struggling or burning out.
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  • I handed them a copy of my write up and said "The action plan I received stated I could not talk about burn out anymore." Management was scolded for inadvertently creating a hostile work environment where staff couldn't ask for support.
    via insiderecess
  • I got 7 weeks off and partial pay, and they had to cover my job for that entire time I was out.
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  • NEO--2020 Hope you are feeling better now OP.
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  • OP insiderecess Much better!
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  • Contrantier Sweet! I hope that slammed their fragile egos back down where they belonged. Also hope you're doing okay now.
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  • OP insiderecess I still work there and I have been under a microscope since I have not been as transparent as before. Apparently that makes them more uncomfortable then what I was doing before
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  • Contrantier Shit. So even though they got smacked for it, they still won't discredit the false write up so you know that transparency is safe again? And if it's still pretty bad, that means that even though they're afraid of losing you they're still treating you like garbage. Management should just learn to admit when they've already learned their lesson, not pretend they didn't learn it.
    via Contrantier
  • OP insiderecess It was the worst thing that they could have done to my passion for working there. I would have stayed for much longer had they not done this. But they got what they wanted, they were stressed about my burn out and I have none now because you can't get burned out if you don't care anymore
    via insiderecess
  • Contrantier Under a microscope? So it's still pretty bad I guess?
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  • OP insiderecess This write up was almost a year ago and I bring it up a lot to remind them of what I was instructed to do when they try to press me for info on my personal life. They really hate that, and they are afraid I am going to leave for another job. So yeah it sucks pretty bad
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  • 3lm1Ster The first time you said anything about burn out, or losing family members you should have been given information on reaching out to your company's EAP. As a manager, I dont want details. But i do have to have enough compassion and empathy to realize you are struggling and need someone to talk to.
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  • OP insiderecess Instead of compassion and understanding I was met with punishment and got my hands slapped. They cured my burn out permanently though! Can't get burned out if you don't care
    via insiderecess
  • Contrantier So you're planning on leaving soon you mean? I hope so. As long as you have a safe alternative.
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  • OP insiderecess Hopefully soon! Still looking for the right fit
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  • Supergoid Document everything. And when they ask why, point to "you created a hostile work environment previously, and are now scrutinising me". Then, when they misstep again take the next 7 weeks you need "you can stop this at any time, by going back to how it was before. no? OK!"
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  • OP insiderecess They have the balls to ask me how we can "rebuild trust" after this incident. I've been documenting everything for 10 months
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  • BurningBazz That could be the next level of burnout though. I stopped caring about work 15years ago while burnt out. Never really recovered.
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  • OP insiderecess I just kinda shifted my priorities. My personal life and my family is my priority. This place is just a paycheck, and that's okay!
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  • km89 I'm on the other side of burnout, like OP. While indifference before really crashing is definitely a sign, in my experience indifference after recovery is more about a change in perspective. Once they prove to you that they don't care how badly it affects you, it becomes clear that you shouldn't care about them either. If OP's in any kind of similar situation to what I went through, they can still take pride in doing good work, they're just only in it for the paycheck now instead of being e
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  • OP insiderecess Precisely, this is just a job! I am here for a paycheck and that's it. The write up shifted my priorities. I do my job and I do it well, I just don't stress about what happens here anymore
    via insiderecess
  • laz10 >The write up included every single 1:1 documentation of when I asked for help with burn out. That's psychopathic behaviour from them
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  • OP insiderecess Truly I was baffled
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